Making Enemies while Finding Myself

June 3, 2018

This weekend, I celebrated my first 29th birthday of many more to come.  It was a really great weekend.  I was able to spend some quality time with the hubby and Bales.

Bailee and I also celebrated her future best friend, Gavin, at his baby shower!


This year has been a lot of changes.  One obvious change was having a baby.  It changes you in more ways than you can count.  It changes how you do errands.  You think about how you can maximize your errands list by only getting out of the car once.  It changes how you grocery shop, as we now utilize click list from Kroger.  It changes how you sleep.  Midnight wake ups and daily naps become routine.  It changes how you complete chores.  You think about all the stuff you can get done during a 30 minute nap.  But mostly, it has changed how I look at the people in my life.

I’ve reflected a lot this year about the people in my life.  I don’t have patience to spend time with people who bring drama, who are judgmental, or who make my life more difficult and stressful.  I don’t need people in my life who don’t make an effort or who don’t add value to my life.  Bailee is my priority.  I refuse to have people in her life who come and go with no qualms like I had with certain people in my life.  I refuse to have people in her life who guilt trip to get their way or who put themselves first or who judge because they think they know the right way to do things.  I’ve made a lot of enemies this year because of it, and been extremely hurt by certain people as well.  But, honestly, I don’t care.  As a parent, I get to decide who is in mine and my daughter’s life and our lives are better without them.  I don’t have time to deal with fake.  I don’t have the patience to pretend to be someone I’m not, just to fit in.  You can hate me for it, but the most important person in my life is Bailee.

The people I have chosen to surround myself and my daughter are amazing.  They bring joy, happiness, and value.  They lift me up and I know they will do the same for Bailee.  They bring support.  They don’t use guilt.  They truly care.  They’re there when I need to vent.  They want to see me and Bailee succeed.  And that is literally the only thing I can ask for from the people in my life.

Thank you to my people.  You know how you are <3


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