June 21, 2017
When I first became pregnant, I associated mom2mom with a fun sale. Moms working together to lift one another up, haggle with prices, and support one another. Moms asking for advice and helping one another get through the toughest job of motherhood.
Instead, mom2mom now has a negative connotation in my world.
Don’t get me wrong. I still love a good mom2mom sale. I have bought so much from fellow moms at mom2mom sales and garage sales. Instead I allude to the social media aspect of mom2mom. I am finding that EVERYONE HAS AN OPINION and will tell you that opinion whether or not you asked.
When I first announced I was pregnant, I was told “you better not work out too much,” “why would your boss promote you when he knows you are pregnant?” “you better get rid of your cats because they will suffocate your baby.” Now that I am in my third trimester, I have heard, “you better cool it on the weight gain,” “why are you registering for that?” “why are you working up until your due date.” I swear, there is NO WINNING.
When I post stuff on my social media, I can always count on SOMEONE posting something negative. Granted, this is totally my own fault. I probably post way too much and am asking for it. But it leads me to question, when and why?
When did moms start thinking they are perfect enough to place judgement upon other moms?
When did moms stop lifting each other up and start putting each other down if they don’t have the same child rearing outlooks?
Why does social media bring out the worst in people?
And why oh why does EVERYONE have to be in each other’s business?!?!?!
I’m sure I have done it. I’m sure I will be guilty of it in the future. However, I am going to try my hardest to lift other moms up and help them. Being a parent is the toughest job in the world. We will beat ourselves up probably more than anyone else. Moms don’t need to sit and worry about how other moms will react to their decision. Instead, we need to use each other as a support group and count on one another to have each other’s backs.
Why is that so hard?
Note: I’m sure someone will bring up moms who are abusive. This is NOT what I am talking about. I am talking about moms who are trying their damn hardest each and every day and still get judged for not doing enough.